“The ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions.”
That’s the definition. Considered decisions and sensible conclusions.
I don’t know about you but walking around feeling superior and judging people around you does not fall under sensible.
Feeling like your opinion is the end all is not sensible.
Everyone goes through struggles that are invisible to the majority. Everyone deals with things in their own way and time. What makes you the expert on everything? Did I ask your opinion? Was it necessary to judge me based on a small moment of a larger life?
*small break in rant*
I read a book this weekend that completely destroyed me. I’m talking about real tears for fictional characters. That alone is a feat that any author should be proud of.
The book was titled Me Before You by Jojo Moyes. It should sound familiar since they are making a movie based on this book very soon.
It’s about a young women who takes care of a man who is in a wheelchair. (That’s if you look just on the surface) *side note: it makes me so happy that this trend of writing about people with “disabilities” is becoming popular. I think it’s so important for us as a society to include all sorts of people and characters into popular culture*
This book may be seen as a romance or something traditionally for women. But let me tell you what I saw:
Yes, there is a romance.
Yes, there is sexual tension.
But there is also a story of an amazingly adventurous man who lost everything he ever treasured.
It’s also about the struggle for a young woman to find herself amongst the pressures of her family.
It’s about the life of someone who was raped and had to move on with their life.
It’s about the life of someone who has no control over any aspect of their life.
It’s about superficial assumptions and judgments vs the reality.
It’s about putting your own opinions aside and listening to what the other person is saying.
It’s about how loving someone means allowing them to make their own choices.
(I may have given a few things away…whoops! You should still totally read this heartbreaking book!)
*back to the rant*
Reading this book, I saw how one small assumption of judgment could be detrimental to someone’s wellbeing. I saw how no matter the level of empathy or sympathy, you will never truly know how any one feels or thinks. I learned you will never know, until you stop judging and take a moment to listen. Until you put away your own biases and see things through someone else’s eyes.
While my own current life experiences may have influenced what I saw in this book, I feel that’s what literature is about. That’s what writing is about. It’s a way for the author to express themselves and it’s a way for the reader to take away something that is needed to make their mind a little calmer.
I hope one day, my writing will have that affect on people. I hope one day, my teaching will have that affect on children. But for now, I am learning myself. I am learning to take what the universe gives me and be grateful.